yahweh? inanna? ometotchtli? whatever. article on slate about un-religious ritual. see also SecularCeremonies, which has good sane-making advice. how much do we want to include god? if at all? my parents are both quakers; m's dad is, i'm pretty sure, an atheist; his mom was (again, i'm pretty sure) raised methodist but i'm not certain she goes except on holidays, any more. my parents still go. i went when i was a kid. i don't think m did. if m doesn't want to include any mention of god, ... am i okay with that? if i'm happily standing under a lovely tree on a hill with the lake and the flowers and ... i mean, do i really need to inform people that god is there? can't the people who want god to be there, tell that god is obviously there whether we're talking about it or not, and the others (m's dad, for ex.) be happy with the tree and the hill and the lake and the flowers? ...i think i'm okay with that. i still like the reading from Ruth but it can be edited and keep the same tone. and if we're only having a five-minute ceremony we can't ... there won't be much to it anyway. oo, we could have a Moment of Silence (or a Minute or Two of Silence, to be quakerly) in which we ask guests to bless us / our union / something like that. i like that idea, i think. and certainly if anybody feels Led to Speak (and i'm seeing m's family beforehand, so i can sort of .. explain this to them and make them ...get it) then of course that's fine. and i guess we'll have programs (that was a really handy thing to have at the Hindu wedding we went to, which was a little more out of the beaten path than a Minute or Two of Silence at a half-quaker wedding, or maybe quite a bit more off the beaten path around here anyway, but the program was nice to have and we certainly agreed on that). Ought to call m. Ok.

haha! what would LOKI do? lol.